Wednesday, March 26, 2008

A mystery of relationship

One of the ways love gets stuck is when movement stops happening and when the interaction is no longer variegated, when it doesn’t make more variety. It gets bored. It doesn’t create new flavors. It’s missing different types of itself. That’s why in personal relationships between people, love gets locked up. Why do you get tired of a person? You’re bored with the situation. When love no longer has this movement and it’s not constantly creating new waves of itself that are generating movement, when love gets locked up and no longer has the ability to express in that way, the movement slows down. It doesn’t ever completely stop because of the organic nature of the heart and human consciousness, but it can slow down enough so that you feel stuck. You’re not moving.

As you begin to get sensitized to that level of the heart and the feelings that can be generated from that, you can actually change the movement so that feeling can be enlivened and be expressed. That’s what can change the heart and the nature of interactions between people. The cognition of this can change the nature of personal relationship. You’re inside your heart, and then you’re inside the other person’s heart, and your consciousness is looking back at your heart and back at their heart until you begin to reach in there and you can actually see where the interaction energetically is stuck. It may be moving here, but not moving very well over there. Then you can fix it.

It’s one of the mysteries of relationships that we get more stuck with people we love. On good days you set up a resonance between you and the other person. There’s a lot of movement and space keeps getting created, making more layers. But sometimes we don’t have resonance, you have conflict or lack of resonance. So a piece here and there gets stuck, they’re not communicating, the signal gets stuck, and something dies. We don’t intentionally mean to stop love, but the movement of those pieces stop, and some piece of love dies. You lose that infinite replicating capacity. If enough dying happens, you fall out of love. You’re no longer communicating with the other person, no longer in resonance.

Our job is to have a deeper understanding of the crystalline structure in the heart, how that crystalline structure creates space, how the different packages of information which transfer information and love in the heart from one field to the other get stuck, and how we can get them unstuck. How can we change the way they are communicating with one another? Usually we do this on a more mental level and we feel that it’s our belief structures or our thinking that is essentially the problem, and that is true to some extent, but that’s only because the mind is reflecting the energy system. The mind is interpreting the subtle expressions of the energy system. So the belief structures are a reflection of the way the energy is moving or not moving.

If you take the belief structures out of the way and think about it this way, by having a recognition of how these structures are moving or not moving, how space can be created more elegantly and efficiently, how you can turn back the intelligence into the heart, I’m hoping you’ll have a recognition of how the heart can rearrange itself to accommodate love between you and another person more comfortably. Essentially, love is just an accommodation. If you come into this house and the furniture isn’t right for you, you move it around. But the furniture has to be willing to be moved. If it was bolted to the floor, you couldn’t pick it up. Sometimes when people are in continuum with one another, these structures can get stuck so that you literally can’t get space to cause movement.

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